9 Ways for Men to Heal Their Relationship With Women

This article is for men who feel friction, confusion, tension, or emotional charge around women.
Maybe you notice resentment. Maybe withdrawal. Maybe irritation, distrust, or a subtle sense of distance that you can’t quite explain.

You may not hate women.
You may even consciously respect women.

And still—something doesn’t feel fully open, relaxed, or at ease in how you relate.

Our relationship with women (and men) is deeply shaped by our early experiences with our mother, father, or other primary caregivers. Our first encounters with the masculine and feminine form the lens through which we later experience intimacy, attraction, conflict, and connection.

When pain, neglect, rejection, or confusion was present around the feminine, that pain doesn’t simply disappear. It often lives on as unconscious beliefs, emotional defenses, or protective reactions toward women.

These patterns don’t stay in the past.
They show up in our relationships, expectations, projections, and choices.

In this article we focus specifically on men healing their relationship with women.

When friction turns into misogyny

At some point on this path, it’s important to name something honestly.

When unresolved pain around the feminine hardens, it can take the form of resentment, emotional shutdown, superiority, objectification, or hostility toward women. This is where the word misogyny comes in.

Misogyny does not only mean overt hatred of women.
It exists on a spectrum—from subtle distrust and distancing to open contempt.

Many men who would never call themselves misogynistic still carry unexamined attitudes or reactions toward women that were shaped by early wounds and reinforced by societal conditioning.

This does not make a man bad.
It means something in him learned to protect itself.

Important to say clearly:
Feeling resentment or anger toward women does not justify harmful behavior toward women.
Emotional honesty is part of the healing process — but true healing only begins when you take responsibility.

Research from 2020 showed that around 50% of men believed they had more right to a job than women, and to this day no country has achieved full gender equality. This points to a collective imbalance that lives not only in systems, but in inner worlds.

For many men, these patterns go unnoticed because they don’t identify with extreme forms of misogyny. Yet subtle forms often have the same impact on intimacy, trust, and polarity.

This information is an invitation—not an accusation.
An invitation to look honestly, gently, and bravely.

9 Easy Ways to Heal Your Relationship With Women

Whether you recognize misogynistic tendencies in yourself or simply feel called to heal your relationship with women, the following practices are invitations—not rules.

Take what resonates. Move at your own pace.

1. Admit what you actually feel

Healing begins with radical honesty.

If there is dislike, resentment, distrust, or anger toward women inside you—acknowledge it. Not to act it out, but to stop pretending it isn’t there.

The ego wants to be seen as good and evolved.
But these feelings are usually parts of you, shaped by experience—not your whole identity.

Admitting them doesn’t make you wrong.
It makes you available for change.

2. Write down your associations with women

Take a piece of paper and write down everything that comes to mind when you think of women—the good, the bad, the contradictory.

Ask yourself:

What frustrates me about women?
What do I fear?
What patterns keep repeating?
Where did I learn these beliefs?
What experiences shaped them?

Let it be messy. Let it be honest.

Optional extension: a letter to your mother

You may choose to write a letter to your mother expressing:

What hurt you
What you missed
What you wish had been different
What you appreciate now

You do not need to send this letter.
The act of writing alone can be deeply healing.

3. Release stored anger—without acting it out

Anger that isn’t expressed consciously gets stored in the body.

Find a safe and private way to release it:

Punch a pillow
Hit a punching bag
Squeeze a towel

Stay connected to what you feel during this process. Small, mindful moments of expressing anger are more effective than completely letting loose on a pillow without truly connecting with the emotions that want to come out.

And to be clear:
This is about releasing emotion, not reenacting harm.

4. Step into a woman’s lived reality

This isn’t about guilt.
It’s about perspective.

Imagine growing up as a woman in this world:

Being sexualized early
Navigating safety constantly
Carrying emotional labor
Being underestimated or judged

Spend 10–15 minutes visualizing life through a woman’s eyes.

Then write down what shifted.
Often, this practice alone softens rigidity and opens compassion.

5. Start over consciously

Make a new start. The next time you interact with women, observe without assumption.

Be curious:

Who is she really?
What do I notice beyond my filters?
What do I appreciate?

Set the intention to meet women as they are, not as your past has trained you to see them.

Ask yourself:
How would the mature, grounded masculine within me relate here?

6. Release superiority and practice equality

Equality is not an abstract idea, but something you feel from within.

Notice where superiority, comparison, or defensiveness shows up.
Also notice if equality feels uncomfortable—sometimes that points to unresolved self-worth wounds, not just gender issues.

Men and women are different, but equal, with complementary strengths.
Competition between equal forces only creates distortion.

True polarity arises from mutual respect, not dominance.

7. Stop objectifying. Start relating.

Media trains men to see women as images, bodies, or roles to fulfill.
Real women don’t exist to match fantasies.

Bodies age. Emotions change. Life happens.

Women—especially emotionally aware women—can sense when they are being objectified. Ego-driven relating is not masculine maturity.

Ask yourself honestly:
Who would stay when the image fades (the beauty of a woman) and real life appears?

Healthy relationships are built on presence, not projection.

8. Reconnect with the Divine Mother

Beyond our human parents, there is also the archetypal Divine Mother and Divine Father—energetic qualities within us all, not fixed gender roles.

The Divine Mother represents:

Receiving
Nurturing
Emotional truth
Unconditional presence

Connecting with her requires clearing resistance around softness, vulnerability, and being held.

As you heal this connection, you heal your relationship with women—and with your own inner feminine energy.

9. Practice conscious kindness

Do something genuinely kind for a woman—someone you know or a stranger.
Only if it feels authentic.

Notice:

How she responds
How you feel afterward

Kindness, when real, rewires perception.

Do you actually want a woman in your life?

This is a crucial question.

Healing your relationship with women also means being honest about whether you actually want one in your life

If you notice deep resentment toward women, ask yourself honestly:
Do I truly want a woman in my life?

If the answer is no—own it.
There is nothing wrong with choosing solitude.

If the answer is yes, then healing your projections and attitudes toward women is not optional.
It is foundational.

Women can feel mysterious, emotional, and hard to read.
That is the nature of the feminine.

The feminine needs inner and outer masculine structure to feel safe and balanced—not control, but presence.

This work doesn’t happen overnight.
It unfolds through awareness, responsibility, and patience.

But when men take this journey sincerely, it doesn’t just heal personal relationships.
It helps restore balance, polarity, and harmony—within themselves and collectively.

And in doing so, you contribute to a better world.

With Love, Naomi

P.s. you may also like to read ‘How to create Inner Union? Understanding the Feminine and Masculine Energies within’

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